HOWEVER, if there's anything that I've learned in the last few men I've dated, it's that an ex-girlfriend lurking on social media or in real life is a big fat fucking no-no. If there are exes that are still lingering around, that's a huge red flag. I happen to be a really good internet sleuth, and to be quite honest, it wasn't very hard to do my research about this dude. Everything he posts is public, and he uses his real name on his social media accounts. He's so naive, it's almost adorable.
I just happened to see that his ex is still a very present entity on his social media, so that is enough to kill whatever feelings I was nurturing for him. For all I know, I could be making a huge deal out of something that actually means nothing. But I don't want to sleep on my hunches anymore. Remember what happened when I started to settle for Ben? For Gabe? For Gino?
I sure as hell do, and I don't want to, anymore. There were all these fucking women around them and I chose to barrel on, thinking I was the only special one. NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE not gonna happen.
I've got my own set of hangups about men, to be sure. But I think I'm doing the mature thing in trying to avoid getting involved with men who have their own hangups, also.
